Apologizing to your girlfriend – How to mend and repair the relationship
Apologizing to your girlfriend can seem like a monumental task. If you have hurt her so deeply that she is now telling you that she needs time or space, you have work to do. If you don’t do the right thing and apologize in the right way, you could cause even more damage and lose her forever. Saying you’re sorry isn’t going to be enough. You need to go one step further to make sure that she can repair the relationship and make her feel close and connected to you again.
When it comes to apologizing to your girlfriend, you have to do it with meaning and conviction. Depending on what you’ve done, this may mean apologizing multiple times or just once. While it’s tempting to accompany your apology with a gift or flowers, it’s actually not the best idea. It can be misunderstood by a woman if she is feeling very emotional. She can see the gesture of goodwill as a snippet and the sincere apology you were trying to deliver will get lost in translation. Leave all the gifts out of this. Instead, ask him to meet you and then tell him you’re sorry.
Trying to explain why you did what you did should come at a later point. When you apologize to your girlfriend, you want it to be simple and direct. Tell her that you are sorry for what you did and that you are deeply sorry for the pain that she has caused her. Let her know that you are just as disappointed in her own behavior as she is.
The next part of your quest to get your girlfriend to forgive you is to show her that you really are a different man. Telling her that you will be different or that you will not repeat the same mistake may go unnoticed by her. She may doubt that and it would be for good reason. Your past behavior is what is guiding her decision making now, so you need to show her, through your renewed actions, that you are a better person who has learned from her past mistakes. Change any behavior that she has caused you to hurt her. Let her see that you have a renewed purpose in her life and that is to make her trust you and your love for her again.
It will obviously take time, but with patience and persistence you can rebuild the relationship to be even better than it was before. You love her, so it’s worth more than the effort.