What to do if you suddenly withdraw
Have you ever experienced the following situation?
You met an amazing new guy who might be “the one”, you dated him, you had a great time, you met again and you fell madly in love with him.
However, the moment you started to feel “safe” and things stabilized, he suddenly withdrew.
Suddenly he became unavailable, found excuses not to see you, or worse, stopped contacting you at all.
You were totally surprised and disappointed.
What the hell had happened?
The answer is: nothing.
Yes, you understand correctly.
What you need to know about guys is that they, unlike us, have what I call an “automated withdrawal mechanism,” which kicks in whenever he experiences sudden, intense emotional closeness with a woman.
Even if he enjoys being with you as much as you do, his masculine instinct tells him that there is danger and that he has to defend his freedom. Consequently, it begins to drift away.
So how should you react when that happens?
Most importantly, relax! Don’t panic!
You have to know that what happens here is nothing personal. This is not about you.
What happens here is that the poor man is only trying to maintain his freedom, that he feels that he is in danger of being permanently lost. (because he’s starting to like you a lot, which isn’t bad at all, right?)
But, ladies, things are not as bad as you think.
The important thing in this situation is to stay calm!
Don’t panic and start chasing him! Don’t try to regain control by doing things for him.
Because it will be seen as need or desperation. And guys hate that, especially when the relationship is still fresh.
Then, what are you going to do?
Any. I know, this requires real self-control and is extremely difficult to do, especially when your heart is on fire and your hormones are in overdrive …
So try to relax.
Distract yourself. Go to the movies. Read a good book. Chat with your friends on the phone. Go shopping.
Either way, the important thing is to stay calm and not run after him.
This has several important advantages:
1, you keep your dignity.
2. You have the opportunity to take care of other areas of your life that have been neglected in the meantime.
3, it will increase their respect and admiration for you. They don’t perceive you as a clingy, needy person who they should take care of. Who wants that anyway?
You are an independent, confident woman who has her own life. You can survive happily, with or
4, you give him the space he needs and the opportunity to “hunt you down.” (Guys love that whether they admit it or not)
If you apply all of the above, something surprising will happen:
As soon as he realizes that you are not there to run after him and “hunt him down”, he will want to chase you.
Why is that?
Because human nature is like this: we always want what we cannot have. Anything that is served to us on a golden plate signifies a lack of defiance and is consequently perceived as undesirable.
Experts call the conscious application of this simple truth “reverse” psychology.
So ladies, don’t start to question yourself. Just keep calm, keep busy and everything will be fine.