Get your life back after your breakup

A breakup is always an emotional moment. Losing your husband or wife after vowing to live happily ever after is always difficult and traumatizing, and it can seem much more important than when you are separated from a girlfriend or boyfriend, because there are property to divide, custody to determine, and alimony to pay. . But breaking up with a girlfriend or boyfriend is just as difficult and traumatizing because of the enormous emotional loss that a breakup always brings.

If it’s the kind of breakup that causes you to wake up in a cold sweat in the middle of the night or not let yourself sleep at all, you might start to think it was the kind of love that might never come back. This would naturally lead one to believe that he or she was the one, and now they are gone forever.

Or maybe all is not lost? Once you find a moment between crying spells, ask yourself if the relationship can still be salvaged. If the answer is yes, undeniably yes, without missing a beat, yes, then ask yourself another question: why are you so upset?

Are you worried that no one can love you the same way you were loved in that past relationship or that no one can ever love you again? This is a real fear to consider, but don’t ever be with your ex again if this is the case. First of all, look at the main root of your fear: You are afraid of spending an eternity alone. It’s not about the other person in particular, it’s about you. The other person is simply a convenience: he was close, she knows everything about you, and you can wear your horrible underwear in front of her, and so on. The main point is that you may not be heartbroken and as devastated as you thought, you are simply not willing to start from scratch in search of your next relationship.

What you have to do is learn to relax and love yourself a little more. Look at this breakup as a time to rediscover who you are, regardless of anyone else. Find hobbies and new interests, preferably things that you are good at. This will strengthen your self-esteem and keep your feelings of hopelessness at bay. And you become a better person, with or without a partner to validate this for you.

Now if your answer to “Why are you so upset?” it has to do with the other person – how great your ex is and how genuinely sorry you are that you contributed to the downfall of your relationship, then this relationship is definitely worth saving.

Of course, your ex may not want to be with you again. Respect their wishes, offer to be friends, and try not to ask too much of themselves as true friends would. Your ex will appreciate this consideration and even if you don’t get back together, they will still be in your life. And that’s better than they are gone forever, isn’t it?