How to improve our marriages
The best thing about making good and positive changes in our lives is that the results of those changes in our self-esteem and image outweigh the challenges and efforts that it took to change. We can change the things in our life that we don’t like. We can be a better person, a more educated person, a healthier person, a more financially stable person, a more loving and supportive person, if we choose to be, and pursue the knowledge and wisdom we need to transform ourselves. With God nothing is impossible. And nothing is impossible if we believe.
Let’s consider changing our marital relationships for the better. No, I am not encouraging you to change your spouse. Rather, I would like to show you how to be more loving to your husband or wife. Things can get better and better in your marital relationship, by applying specific keys that have been revealed for centuries, but are rarely applied.
Many people think that marriage is outdated and out of date. On the other hand, some people believe that it is a waste of time, because marriages do not survive these days. But these myths, however convincing they may seem, can never eliminate the fact that marriage is honorable, as it was established by the Creator of the universe.
Marriage works. But there are principles that must be applied consistently and efficiently in order for it to work the way it is supposed to. Once again, the Creator has given these principles in The Holy Bible. Therefore, it would benefit you and me to search the Bible and discover these principles, if we really want to enjoy a full and rewarding life in the will of God.
It is commonly said that the three essential things for a good marriage are communication, sex, and money. Recognizing that these are vital to a great marriage, let me include the first step to a proper and blessed marriage.
The first step is God. If you really want to have a wonderful marriage, invite Christ to come in the family, as Lord. Ask him to show you what it takes to enjoy your union with your spouse.
Second, I encourage you to approach your marriage with the mindset that you will be in it for life. Once when I was joking with my wife, I said, “The reason God made marriage a lifelong event is because He knew it would take us so long to understand them.” Well, I think this is true on both ends. If we stop trying to change each other and instead try to learn each other, discovering each other’s likes and dislikes, doing our best to meet each other’s needs, perhaps this will only add value, peace, and enjoyment. to our marriage.
Third, make heartfelt forgiveness a necessity in your marriage. Learn to forgive your spouse and to let things go. Remember that we are different people who learn to be one and we get along. There are times when your spouse can do things that you don’t like and vice versa. Forgive the goal. And when you forgive, forget about it. In other words, don’t mention again what you have said you have forgiven. If you constantly bring up your spouse’s past mistakes, it will be detrimental to your relationship. Actually, if you constantly rehearse the negatives your spouse has done, this is a sure sign that you never forgave him. And depending on your attitude and tone of voice when repeating the offense, bitterness may have appeared. Seek professional help from a godly counselor.
My last tip is to simply stay true to God and to each other. Don’t step outside the boundaries of your marriage, no matter how tempting it may seem to do so. As the old adage goes, “The grass only looks greener on the other side.” Adultery has never worked and it never will. It will destroy your marriage and may even destroy your relationship with your children. So stay true to your spouse.
There are many excellent books on the subject of marriage. Get some of. Read them. And apply what catches your attention. Above all, look in the Holy Bible. God has excellent advice for our marriages.