Love, relationships and sacred love: fighting the gremlins that shorten relationships
Love is a wonderful journey. There are many people who can love really deeply. People often say to me “I love deeply and therefore I am hurt a lot”, but today I would like to argue that nature does not agree with that assessment.
The capacity to love cannot be measured in opportunities to celebrate the good times, the high or positive emotional moments. This is the most superficial love. Sometimes the person who claims to have the deepest love has the opposite because her love cannot be sustained when the going gets tough.
The true measure of love is “how resilient is it?”
Love is life any pleasure. More doesn’t always make you happy. You can make love all weekend, but 30 seconds after you stop, a call comes in from your ex and you go into an emotional spiral. If things like this can get you down, then your love could be called a crush. If external disturbances send you into an emotional spiral, then your love, no matter how passionate, is incomplete.
If your love is interrupted by worry or anger, then it is a weak love, a love full of emotional ups and downs, balanced by emotional depressions.
Love is a power. It is the power of sustainability. Love is the laser focus, where you make every moment count. Yes, things happen to us, parents die, friends get angry, children disobey and demand, work is stressful and travel exhausting. But love is like a martial art, it is not passive. Don’t sit behind your dynamic with people waiting for the air to clear before being prioritized. Love is the priority in which you live.
It is wise to consider this in your relationships. Because the consequence of not prioritizing love is disastrous. Love does not imply that other things, other elements of your life do not exist, however, love does imply that the rope that binds you, no matter where you are, is more important than the emotional attachments you have with other things.
I know people from all over the world who, in the first months of a relationship, are effusive and affectionate, like a lasso they throw to capture their lover. But in a short period of time, distractions drive them away, excuses for not showing up begin to seep into their love offering.
Oh, my mom is upset that I didn’t invite her to stay in October. Oh, my father hates me because I like my mother. Oh, my ex could lower the support payments if we do that. Oh, I can’t afford a babysitter this week. Oh, I’m so upset, I don’t like my apartment. Oh, business is not good, I am very worried about it. Oh, my back hurts so bad I need to take anti-inflammatories. Oh, I’m too tired to travel there. Oh, I don’t feel like it. Oh, my friend said he was mean to her, but he wasn’t.
These are what I call, the gremlins. Little warriors of emotions who come to take love and divide it into an undercurrent, “we sure love each other, although we are both very busy.” The gremlins find their way through major emotional dramas, through the invasion of non-relevant people, and the gremlins eventually take control.
Protecting your relationship from gremlins means protecting your relationship from your outer circle. Your love is a sanctuary, like a holy place, a sacred place, and every emotion, whether it be lovemaking, work, or worry, must be subservient to it.
Love is sacred. If you treat it like that, love is a magnificent place to live from. But if you are a victim of your emotions, flown here, rushed there, ups and downs, up and down, your love will no longer be a priority, and in a short period of time, it will turn to tatters. Pleasure is the Band-Aid used by the uninitiated to mend love that is full of gremlins, sexuality with elegant negligee, but such weapons against gremlins fail.
Feeding the hungry gremlins means feeding the drama. There will never be enough pleasure to make the gremlin happy. After a week on a wonderfully romantic honeymoon, one phone call, one piece of information can wipe out all the happiness and turn the moment into a disaster. You can swim in a five-star pool and receive luxurious treatments in a spa, but a news molecule can erase everything. For those whose commitment to love is weak, the cracks of self-importance through which the gremlins crawl are wide open.
The gremlins that kill relationships rarely come from within the relationship. Two lovers can find the space and love that is truly sacred. But then ex-partners, families, money problems, work, health, ambitions, greed, jealousy, jealousy of friends, children and more begin to emerge. They are the enemy. the gremlins. You must be at war with those gremlins. Know that they are like a cancer that so quickly erodes the beauty and integrity of sacred love.
To live in a sacred relationship we must learn to control the mind. Learn to master our reactions to emotional triggers. The self-indulgent person is deluded into thinking that the pleasure will last without mind control. They lack. They are the victim, powerless, looking for peaceful places because they don’t have the mental power to create inner peace. These emotionally fragile individuals blame the world for their lack of mental control. They blow like the wind, moody, reactive. Such a person cannot hold sacred love.
Mind control comes with an understanding of the Universal Laws of nature.
Prioritize love. Prioritize love. Beyond making love, prioritize love, the sanctuary between you where no other news, no other soul, no noise, no disturbance, no problem or person can invade. Hold this space sacred, never let go. 24/7 this is the space where two lovers work, live and play. Sacred love can be so strong that there is no need to worship gods and goddesses in temples or places of religion, love is god and god is love, sacred love is that home and exists in the heart of two warriors. To people who are willing to work for what they believe is possible. Sacred Love.