The gift of relationships
Before you run away from that relationship that is causing you distress, read this!
What you may be experiencing in your relationship is simply a reflection of what you are feeling and thinking inside. We attract to us the most perfect partner to help us heal our wounds and teach us more about love, and we do the same for others. When we get close to another and those past hurts or pains start to show, that’s usually when we want to run: STAY! this is your opportunity to heal what is preventing you from having that deep and intimate relationship that your heart longs for.
Relationships are the largest and most intense vehicle for our personal growth. For example, romantic relationships come together because each of you is emitting an energetic vibration that matches each other. What the other person has, you also have. In the beginning, each of you is seeing the best in the other. You cannot recognize in another what you do not have in yourself. The charming aspects that you are attracted to in the other person are also the charming aspects that you have in yourself. Accept that.
Also, as relationships grow, mature, and get to know each other, they begin to recognize traits and behaviors in others that they may not find so agreeable. I encourage you to accept that as well because YOU too have those characteristics and behaviors. You recognize them because you are familiar with them. By embracing them, you also accept what you don’t like about yourself. Hug him = self love and self acceptance.
Debbie Ford describes these characteristics within us as beach balls. What we don’t like we try to contain it, hide it. And since a beach ball that you try to keep underwater eventually comes out, you can no longer hide it.
We are all individuals who come here together to help each other learn about love, grow, expand, and heal. There is no part of us that is “good” or “bad.” As we evolve, each of us carries with us behaviors that we have used to protect ourselves, to protect our hearts.
If you’re in a relationship now or in the next one and things are awkward, don’t run away. You will meet a similar type of person again until you have learned to love that aspect of yourself. Anything the other person does to provoke or annoy you is simply something you need to look at within yourself. Do it with love and acceptance. As you give more love and acceptance, more love and acceptance comes to you.