The habit of masturbation in girls

Masturbation is a term for a bad habit of manipulating and rubbing the genitals. It is a bad habit because it can harm the health and future development of the girl. The more frequently it is practiced, the more harmful it is. It is more harmful than when children practice it, because the effects are usually more permanent. Girls who indulge in the habit of masturbation excessively not only become weak, anemic, and acquire a dirty, pimpled complexion, but they lose the desire for normal intercourse as they grow older and are unable to derive any pleasure from intercourse. . when they get married. Many girls who masturbate excessively have a strong aversion to the normal sexual act and their married life is unhappy.

The habit is much less widespread among girls than among boys. The girl who values ​​her health, her beauty, and her proper growth and mental development should not allow herself the luxury of doing so.

The behavior of parents: The behavior of some parents when they discover that their child is fondling his genitals or masturbation is allowed, they feel as if a great calamity has befallen them. Imbued with the medieval idea of ​​the sinfulness of the habit, as well as its harm, they begin to scold the child, scare him, make him believe that he is doing something terrible, that he has dishonored him and himself, and try to persuade him to that unless it is stopped immediately, the most dire consequences await. The result of this procedure is disastrous, much more so than masturbation itself.

Parents and physicians must learn that the harm of habit has been greatly and tremendously exaggerated. It is time for them to know that the vast majority of children overcome the habit without being much or anything, worse for it. If the matter is viewed in a sensible and common sense way, tell the child caught in the practice that he has done something shamefully vicious and criminal, but talk to the child kindly and tell him that what he is doing may get serious injury, that may interfere with their future mental and physical health and development, then they will be much more successful in their efforts to break the child’s habit.

Denouncing even the mildest indulgence in masturbation as a vice has a detrimental effect on the person who indulges and makes it more difficult for them to break the habit. The victims of the habit are considered degraded, irretrievably lost. They lose respect for themselves and because of that, it is more difficult for them to break the habit.

Habit prevention: one of the main ways to prevent habits is to carefully observe the child from his earliest childhood. Although, many times, babysitters, vicious or stupid governesses, out of ignorance or perhaps deliberately, induce the habit in the children in their care and this, of course, should be avoided. Children from the age of nine, ten and eleven should not always be left alone, but always under supervision. And also the too close friendship between boys and girls, especially of different ages, should be viewed with suspicion.

Under no circumstances should two be allowed to sleep together in the same bed, be it two children or an elderly person and a child. The child, be it a boy or a girl, should sleep alone, on a fairly hard mattress, and the cover should be light. You can put a decorative quilt on the feet. The child should always sleep with his arms extended on the blanket and never underneath. If this practice is started in a child from childhood, it will be very easy to get used to the way of sleeping, and many cases of masturbation will be eliminated.

If the child is to be watched, he must be so carefully surrounded by surveillance that he cannot trespass without being detected. If he is only partially observed, he will soon learn to avoid observation, and therefore the effect will only make him cunning in his vice.

Hot baths are also very harmful for young children because of their influence on masturbation. Even in adults, a hot bath has a stimulating effect on your sex drive. Any factor that can give rise to the habit of masturbation must be eliminated. Some people will refrain from manipulating with their hands, but will practice what is known as mental masturbation. That is, they will focus their minds on the opposite sex and imagine various lewd scenes, until they feel satisfied. This method is extremely damaging and exhausting and is very likely to cause neurasthenia and a nervous breakdown. This habit is even more harmful than the usual habit.

In adults or youth, a different plan should be followed. Moral considerations and the inevitable consequences for the health of the body and mind are the main influences by which a reform must be carried out. The considerations can be exaggerated with all the eloquence and seriousness possible, but they should not be exaggerated. If there is any special influence that can be exerted on a particular individual, it must be employed quickly and applied in such a way as to ensure its full influence. But although, the maximum to be done, must be the individual himself. All that others can do for him is surround him with favorable circumstances and awaken him to a proper sense of his real condition and danger. If this can be fully achieved, there are many reasons for hope, but if the individual has so lost himself in all sense of purity, in all aspirations towards good and noble objects, that he cannot be made to feel the need for a reform, then your case has become hopeless.

Work is also an excellent remedy, work that will really tire the victim very much, so that when he goes to bed he will not be willing to contaminate himself.

How a person can help himself.

I. Begin the work of reform by purging the mind. If a lewd thought enters the mind, dissolve it immediately. Cultivate hatred for lust. Never entertain such ideas for a moment, because they will surely lead to overacting. If, by chance, physical sin is not to be committed, thought itself is sin and leaves a physical and moral scar almost as deep and dreadful as that inflicted by the gravest crime.

II. Avoid loneliness, because that is when temptation strikes and you are most likely to fail. Also avoid all other causes that may lead to the act.

III. To aid the purity of the mind, whenever impure thoughts enter, immediately direct the mind to the purest object you know. Flee from the special exciting cause, if there is one, and undertake some active work or other exercise that diverts the mind to another channel.

IV. Strictly adhere to all established rules for cultivating chastity and maintaining continence.

V. And above all, seek grace and help from the source of all spiritual strength in every moment of temptation, trusting in the promise, “Seek and you shall find.”