What is the percentage of married men who cheat again?

I get asked this question quite a lot. Women who are considering trying to save their marriage after her husband has cheated on them are trying to gauge the likelihood that he will repeat this behavior and cheat again. Because dealing with this once is extremely difficult, but many people worry that dealing with this more than once is impossible. So it’s understandable that you want to know the chances of her husband cheating on you again. I will go into this in more detail in the next article.

Once a cheater, always a cheater? Is this true no matter what? When infidelity happened to me, I discovered that many (but not all) of my friends had no faith in my ability to fully rehabilitate my marriage. I was told by many that I would probably never fully trust my husband again, as most men who cheat turn out to be repeat offenders. We have all heard the saying “once a cheat always a cheat”. But how true is this? And are there different factors that determine who is going to be a repeat offender? Does getting advice and doing the right thing make it more likely that the husband won’t cheat again? I have different opinions on all these questions, but I can tell you what the studies and statistics indicate. Here’s a look at some of them.

Statistically speaking (and probably to no one’s surprise) men have more chances of infidelity than women. And the numbers seem to back this up. There are many studies on cheating husbands and wives, but most studies indicate that husbands are slightly more likely to cheat than wives. The numbers I found range from 22 to 37 percent of cheating husbands and 14 to 22 percent of wives who have affairs or cheat.

So while these numbers show us that there are a lot of cheating spouses, they don’t tell us how many of these people are repeat offenders who have cheated more than once. The numbers I was able to find indicate that only 15 to 20 percent of people who cheat do so again and become repeat offenders. These are better statistics than many of us expect and I find that many people are surprised to learn that only about 18% of divorces are due to infidelity. I’ve learned that more people than I ever thought can save their marriages after one spouse cheats on them.

Protecting your marriage from repeated cheating: Many couples are able to identify and then address what went wrong so they don’t have to go through this problem again. Many people assume that affairs and affairs are based solely on sex, but this is often not true. It often has more to do with low self-esteem, lack of impulse control, and a feeling of being disconnected, misunderstood, and unappreciated by the spouse being cheated on.

What’s really interesting is that there are some factors that can contribute to married spouses cheating more than once. The one that surprised me the most was the people the cheating spouse hangs out with. One study indicated that men who cheated were more than 77 percent more likely to have a best friend who had also cheated on them. Also, men or husbands are more likely to cheat if their father has been cheated on.

So it can make a lot of sense to take a look at your husband’s friends and male family members. Because oftentimes, it’s a culture of acceptance of cheating that you’ll want to address. Many men are surrounded by other men implying that “all men cheat” and that this is the normal way the world works.

Additionally, there are often contributing factors in marriage that work with cultural aspects (whether at work, in our society, or in the family) to make your marriage more vulnerable to infidelity. No marriage is perfect. But being aware, proactive, and having open communication combined with a sense of connection can go a long way toward ensuring that your marriage isn’t one that has to deal with cheating more than once.

Because the changes a marriage can survive infidelity are reduced with each affair or case of infidelity. So it makes sense to do what you need to do to safeguard your marriage for the future. And studies show that couples who get help dealing with it are more likely not to have to revisit it than those who just sweep the matter under the rug and try to move on too quickly.