Jealousy

Jealousy generally refers to the feelings, thoughts, and behaviors that occur when a person believes that a valuable relationship is being threatened by a rival. The word jealousy comes from the French lattice, formed from jaloux. Jealous feelings always seem to come from the feeling that something in your life is not safe, for example, it is in danger or uncertain. Jealousy is the eruption of attachment and can only be transcended through awareness. As we consciously move toward the center of this phenomenon, we traverse underground beliefs and expectations, projections and illusions, guilt, envy, loss of self-esteem, and the threat to safety. The core is an existential problem and has to do with illusion and the effectively fearful nature of the ego. When we come to know and accept the nothingness at the center, the jealousy and pain of fanatic attachment cease.

Jealousy is a common experience in human relationships and has been reported across cultures and in many ways where researchers have looked, it has been observed in infants 5 to 6 months of age and in adults over 65 years of age. The complexity of jealousy allows people to describe it in different ways. Definitions of jealousy usually share basic themes. These shared themes indicate that jealousy is a meaningful concept and can also be distinguished from concepts such as envy. In simple terms, jealousy is a feeling of protective resentment towards someone who threatens a value or a relationship.

People who have experienced pathological jealousy and for whom jealousy triggers violence can benefit from professional counseling. People who experience habitual jealousy have at least nine strategies for dealing with jealousy. Problem-solving strategies include: improving the primary relationship, interfering with the rival relationship, evaluating yourself, and demanding commitment. Emotion-focused strategies include: partner or rival abrogation, denial / avoidance, development of alternatives, support / catharsis, and assessment challenge. These strategies are related to the regulation of emotions, cognitive change, conflict management and the basic rules to handle jealous competition. The most important thing you can do about feelings of jealousy is to first confess them and then try to overcome them.

While mainstream psychology regards sexual arousal through jealousy as a paraphilia (categorized as zelophilia), some authors on sexuality (Serge Kreutz, Instrumental Jealousy) have argued that jealousy in manageable dimensions can have a definite positive effect on sexuality. sexual satisfaction and sexual function. Jealousy sometimes increases passion towards a partner and increases the strength of passionate sex. Jealousy varies across cultures, cultural learning can manipulate the situations that trigger jealousy, and the way in which jealousy is expressed and attitudes towards jealousy can also change within a culture over time. Jealousy is the powerful complex of emotions experienced by the loss, real or imagined, of someone or something that you believe is yours, while envy refers to what you do not have and would like to possess. Scriptures and teachings of different religions deal with the subject of jealousy. Religions can be compared and contrasted on how they deal with two issues: divine jealousy rules and concepts over the aggravation and expression of human jealousy.