The Fourth Down – The Perfect, Transcendental Kiss
The perfect kiss will help you lock yourself in with the man or woman of your dreams and put you in their memory banks forever! But how do you get the perfect kiss? Each person has different feelings about the way they like to be kissed. A general rule of thumb for the first kiss is to be gentle and brush your lips together lightly, without sticking your tongue into your partner’s mouth like you’re playing tonsil hockey.
Once you’re in a relationship, get out of your comfort zone and ask your partner what they think the perfect kiss would be. For many women and men too, it’s important to set the mood for the perfect kiss. While rushing your loved one into a heated kiss when they first walk through the door after work can be very stimulating and exciting, using this method every time can cause your partner to withdraw.
Have you ever noticed that your partner starts to avoid kissing you in little ways? Maybe, you reach for a kiss and he/she turns the cheek on it. Or when you go in for the kiss, your partner crouches under you and makes some excuse, like they heard someone at the door. Or maybe when you’re both in bed, your partner pretends to be asleep before your goodnight kiss.
If you find yourself in any of these types of situations, here are some tips to help you: First, you need to set the mood. Whether that means taking your arms, wrapping them around your partner and looking into their eyes for a brief moment, putting on music you both love and snuggling on the couch or dancing in the living room, just do it. Once the mood is set, gently cup your partner’s face in your hands, using one of your hands to gently run your fingers through their hair lovingly, then gently kiss the surface of their lips, seeking nothing deeper. .
Once you’ve reached that point, gently pull away to look into your partner’s eyes again for a brief moment, before venturing back to the lips. Next, gently rest your lips on your partner’s, slowly bringing them between yours with a gentle sucking motion. Do this for a short time before moving on to the next step. Remember, whatever you do, don’t stick your tongue in your partner’s mouth at first touch. Once you’ve managed to massage her lips for a few minutes, gently slide your tongue into your partner’s mouth, letting her play with her tongue as if the two of you were dancing together.
Every once in a while (but don’t overdo it), push your tongue deep into your partner’s mouth, then gently withdraw it to mingle with your tongue again. This move can be very sexy and intoxicating when used correctly and during the correct moment of the kiss. Don’t keep your tongue in your partner’s mouth all the time. Continue to change positions in the way you hold it, caressing your partner’s bottom without turning it into a sexual advance and moving from dancing with your tongue to massaging your lips.
Stroke your partner’s hair again, cradle them in your arms as you look into your partner’s eyes, and then begin the kiss again. Once you get the hang of this, ask your partner again what they like and don’t like. Kissing is an art and each person has different preferences.