Things you’ll never hear from a slim, smart, smart woman

I’ve spent years studying French women, as well as other naturally thin people, and there is a method to their “thinness”, but it’s probably not what you think. It does not imply diet and deprivation. It is an attitude, a personal style, a way of seeing the world and it starts from within.

While diet programs and other approaches keep you focused on your “weight problem,” the French approach to leading a lean lifestyle is probably contrary to what you’ve been taught.

From the countryside of Provence to the bistros of Paris, I have paid close attention to the attitudes and behaviors of slim, elegant, and intelligent women. His approach to food, weight and life is very different from the “no pain, no gain” mentality of American culture. Instead, her mindset is based on pleasure and personal style, both of which are incredible tools for losing weight.

I realized a long time ago that if I wanted to be a slim, elegant and intelligent woman, I needed to move away from the diet industry and become a culture that lived a slim lifestyle long before our country existed. What I discovered is that there are certain things that I never hear a slim, elegant, and intelligent woman say. In today’s article, I want to share a few with you so that you can begin to identify some of the blocks that may be preventing you from having the body and life of your dreams.

“I’m on a diet.”

Diets don’t work. Period. If they did, there wouldn’t be a billion-dollar industry that continues to prosper despite its massive failure rate. What the hell? What other industry is successful with a failure rate of more than ninety-five percent? Slim, stylish, and savvy women know it’s not about going on another diet, but about an attitude and mindset that keeps them slim.

Diets = misery. Who wants that? She is definitely not a woman who values ​​pleasure, personal style, and joie de vivre.

So what do you do when you want to lose a few pounds? Well, she has her secret strategies and techniques that guide your body back to its ideal weight without much drama.

“I just read a great article on emotional eating.”

You will find a slim, elegant and intelligent woman reading a great article in Vogue, Bon Appetit or perhaps The New Yorker, but you will not find her wasting time reading about how she has a big problem that needs to be fixed.

Every time you read a diet book or article on how to overcome emotional eating, you are confirming your belief that you have a problem.

Here’s the problem: focus on the problem. What you focus on grows, so learning to shift your attention to what you desire is magical and very slimming. When the pleasure starts to follow, you’ll either put down the diet books and pick up the things you’ve wanted to read for years or take a class you’ve been putting off until you lose weight.

You will begin to live your life now as you would then, reading things that inspire you, do not convince you that you are broken, because you are not!

The result: weight loss.

“I stink.”

I will be honest. I don’t know a single person who doesn’t think once in a while that he sucks. I certainly do. However, a slim, elegant and intelligent woman does not wallow in her self-critical thoughts and certainly does not say it out loud. She doesn’t feed it by concentrating on it, finding evidence of it, and living her life from a place where it “stinks.”

Instead, he realizes that she is not his thoughts, that he has an incredible life to create, and immediately turns his attention to the most beautiful and inspiring things. Sure, she does stupid things like anyone else, and yes, she probably has some cellulite or other lumps, bumps, and quirks, but she sees this as a natural part of being a woman, not evidence that she’s not worth it.

She embraces her strengths and weaknesses, and that only makes her irresistible to those who are honored to be in her presence.

“I lost control.”

Even if she is tucked up to her waist in the refrigerator, a slim, elegant, and intelligent woman will never say she has lost control, because she realizes that every action she takes is completely her own. You cannot experience being in control if you are constantly walking thinking that you are out of control. So if this is your belief, I challenge you to start saying before every action you take, “I am choosing to do this.”

By repeating this to yourself, you will start to manage your mind, and a woman who is the CEO of her mind is unstoppable.

“My weight is ______.”

She will tell you what she cooked last night, where she went on vacation, and the designer of her dress, but she won’t talk to you about her weight. While many women obsess, talk, and share their weight with the world, the slim, graceful, and intelligent woman is hesitant to take her personal affairs to the streets. Also, it doesn’t focus on scale. You won’t find her sitting in some meeting having a weekly weigh-in. Unlike! Instead of concentrating on the scale, notice how the clothes fit on her, how she feels in her own body, and how much joy she is producing, not a number on a piece of metal.

If her clothing is tight, she simply re-evaluates her current lifestyle and choices and makes any necessary adjustments to bring her back to her ideal weight.

Without diet. No drama. Just tweaks and adjustments.

(By the way, on the Slim, Chic and Savvy program, we do something weekly, but it is NOT a weigh-in. It is much more powerful and definitely more enjoyable, and this tool alone has been accused of causing weight loss.)

“I’m hungry.”

When hungry, a slim, elegant and intelligent woman eats. She has programmed her body to wait for meals at certain times, usually breakfast, lunch, and dinner, with an occasional snack in the afternoon. As a result, your body’s metabolism works like a machine, it does not store, but instead releases fat. Nor is he afraid of mild hunger. In fact, you experience it several times a day just before your meal, which in your opinion adds a special delight sauce to your next dining experience. You won’t find her skipping meals because she is trying to lose weight. If you decide not to eat at mealtime, it is because you are not hungry, not because you are eager to lose weight.

She honors her body by listening to him and is slim as a result. Here is a great lesson to learn for any woman who wants to lose weight.

“I’m full.”

Just as she does not starve herself, the slim, graceful, and intelligent woman rarely overeats and rarely fills up. If you overeat on occasion (we are all human), you immediately make up for it by cutting back on your next meals.

She believes that life is best lived in the middle, where you eat when you are hungry and stop when you are elegantly satisfied. Without diet. No drama. Just tweaks and adjustments.

“I don’t have time to take care of myself.”

This is a lie, and the slim, elegant and intelligent woman knows it. You take the time to do what’s important to you, and if you don’t take care of yourself it’s because you don’t see yourself as a priority.

Every French woman I have met understands the importance of taking care of herself. It makes her a better mother, wife, lover, friend, and woman. From cooking to taking care of her skin, she understands that a quality life requires time and space for her own nutrition. She will say no in a minute to something that doesn’t excite her if it means a little more time to relax, breathe, and enjoy her own life.

As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts. Have you noticed what naturally thin people say or don’t say? Share.