Understanding the clitoris: a travel guide to 8,000 beautiful places

Guys, it’s time to get heart to heart. We need to talk about your understanding of your lady’s “little man in the boat.”

That’s right, the clitoris. Sad to say. Most men don’t really understand this little nugget of carnal pleasure with which nature has graced women. The clitoris is the ONLY organ in the human body that has no purpose detectable by medical science other than to provide a woman with the most exquisite natural physical pleasure possible.

Consider that the clitoris, this little bulge that is the gateway to a woman’s orgasms, has more than eight thousand nerve endings. Yes, 8,000! That’s twice as much as on the head of your penis. Now consider also that those eight thousand nerve endings are clustered as closely as possible in an area smaller than the eraser of a pencil, although the size of the clitoris varies greatly. Still, the clitoris is tiny, and so incredibly sensitive, and it needs to be approached gently and with much more patience than your throbbing, eager penis that is always ready to accept whatever it can get.

In other words, guys? It’s not a cheeseburger, and you have to go slow!

One of the first mistakes that even well-meaning men make during foreplay in an effort to get their lady’s juices flowing is to make the tongue immediately dive like a hungry seagull, striking hard and wild at our innermost core. sensitive of its existence.

Well, we know you mean well, but … WRONG! That’s too early in the game, and direct, forceful clitoral stimulation like that should be saved for later, if at all, and should always be worked on gradually.

Instead, focus on cuddling and stroking, and gentle, gentle passionate talk. While a bit off-topic, start with a back rub or foot rub, gently admiring and appreciating your breasts. AND KISS! Let her know that you love her.

At some point in your sexual relationship, you will naturally gravitate towards the joys of oral pleasure, and as much as you like to have your cock sucked, try to be fair as to who goes first in this area. You guys have it easier, you know, and your orgasm is almost a guarantee, whereas many, if not most women, need things to unfold in a fairer way in order to cum. Nature, however, some say, more than made up for it by giving women the incredible gift of the ability to have multiple orgasms.

Now back to the center of your universe. Instead of doing a bee line and fiercely attacking the clitoris, start first by admiring the entire surrounding area. Gently knead the area above with your fingertips. Massage the sides of her vagina. Start giving light kisses in these areas, then gently plant kisses around the entire area, perhaps blowing gently here and there as well.

At this point, DO NOT put half of your hand in it, okay? Rather, be mindful of her body and how she is liking it. If you hear a soft sigh or moan when you do something in particular? Do it again. If his hips move him greedily toward you? You are making a good impression.

When you know that she wants more, then you can start tackling this sweet knot of pleasure. First, kiss him gently, blow gently on him. Gently push back and forth, but do not touch it directly. Then let your tongue gently, and we mean GENTLY, move over it a few times. Dampen a finger or two with your saliva and try stroking it, but not directly at first. Massage the hood at first. Make her want more.

If he is responding favorably and his body movements should tell you yes or no, proceed slowly. When he tells you verbally that something in particular feels good? Keep doing it. Sometimes your signs will be involuntary, and those clues are just as good. Repetition rules when this happens, but you’ll have to learn how far and how long to go before she gets bored or numb.

Every now and then, take a break and leave him with a kiss, and briefly shift your attention to another area of ​​her body, anywhere, just do something nice to her breasts or thighs, or scoot up briefly and kiss her, ask her. she does like it.

Later? Go back and do some more. At this stage, a finger or two inside the vagina is appropriate, in addition to licking her lips. If you know how to find your G-spot (and if not, we’ll get to that later). Vary the way you use your tongue on her clit. Gently push it, swish it slowly, or even quickly, back and forth, or up and down, licking long and wide with the flat of your tongue. And when do you like something? Do it over and over again. And remember it for the future.

At some point, if things go well, her clit will seem to disappear, hiding under the hood. This is a GOOD thing and it means he is about to cum. Speed ​​things up here and keep doing what you’re doing and get ready to enjoy your crash in the land of “la petit mort”, what the French call the “little death”.

A woman’s orgasm is perhaps one of the most beautiful things in the world to witness, and consider that you are right in the center of it, having contributed even to it.

All women come differently, but generally their orgasm is a series of involuntary spasms, three to fifteen convulsions of the anus, pelic muscles, uterus and vagina, a glorious ride of pleasurable waves.

And women can also have several. But don’t be jealous. Learn to please her and her natural gratitude will flow from her in their reciprocal desires to please you more than ever. A man who learns how to do this and shows that he loves it too will never feel lonely forever.