Vibrant Birth – Vibrant Life: The Origins of Birth Trauma
It is generally understood that the birth process can be difficult and traumatic for the baby. Here we will go into more detail about the different patterns that, if not healed, become our normal, distorted behavior as we grow older.
From the moment we are conceived we carry a genetic inheritance of the distorted ancestral patterns of the father and mother. Each generation has the opportunity to transform these patterns, but only if they are aware of it. Most people are not alert to this possibility and believe that these patterns are simply part of their nature. In terms of Human Design, genetically, the strong influence of Mars carries an energy from the father that needs to be transformed. It is only through this transformation that we can live who we really are, following our inner truth.
Each of us has come with work to do in this life, but unless we find a level of awareness, growth, and healing while we are here, we may leave without any knowledge of transformation and our true potential. Every cell in the body vibrates at a frequency and if we can raise the frequency of our cells then we can resonate with the planet and our purpose here. Although each one of us is born with a particular genetic pattern, there are always possibilities to raise the frequency of that pattern so that we live it correctly instead of living a life of struggle when we are not in harmony. When we are living our true genetic role, we discover what we are here to do, what we are passionate about, what interests us the most; and by doing our own work, we are raising the overall frequency of the planet.
Some significant patterns we carry are just what we think we are. These need to be transformed before we can be truly correct and self-realized.
1. The need of the mother?
Ideally, all babies should be invited by both parents. When one parent is dissatisfied with the partnership, one solution is to fill the void with a baby to love. This is never an answer and places a huge burden on the baby who is essentially designed and born to help mend the parental relationship. Any child with this pattern will always seek the security of a solid foundation in her life. This could take the form of marrying someone who needs someone to love and also offers a very solid foundation.
2. Not recognized?
About 70% of births begin as twin births. The mother unconsciously identifies with a particular fetus even if two tiny fetuses are present. If one of the developing fetuses leaves, and the mother has already attached to it, the remaining fetus will go undetected. There are two dynamics going on here for the surviving baby; the first is that he suddenly feels alone, bereft and unrecognized due to his mother’s connection to the other deceased twin. The second is that the surviving twin becomes intensely resentful of the departed twin for taking the food the surviving twin needed.
When the child is born, it will project that resentment onto an older or younger sibling. The mother may be surprised to discover that she is not the child she was unconsciously expecting. The baby will feel the lack of recognition that she felt throughout the pregnancy; this pattern will recapitulate with a parent, sibling, or partner. If that parent, sibling, or partner dies, she simply projects onto another. There is always someone else taking from them and they cannot pay back (often financially). The truth is that while resources were limited in the womb, they don’t have to be in the real world.
3. Wanted or not?
Although many people “realize they are pregnant,” an unplanned or accidental birth is not a healthy way to conceive a child. A baby needs to be consciously planned and desired by both parents to enter the right and nurturing environment. While parents may be thrilled to know a baby is on the way, it doesn’t dispel that disconnect for unsuspecting parents during those first few weeks. Children born with this pattern are often at a friend’s house, spending the night and bonding with those parents. They try not to be too picky and do everything themselves because they think they have to. It is a survival mechanism for them. They can be children who enter the nursery before the nursery, so that the parents can work. In later relationships, they are never sure of the solidity of the partnership and need constant affirmation of their value to the partner.
4. Lost twin?
Another twin dynamic, though this is one where the two fetuses are attached to each other. One of the twins is leaving and the other has lost a potential “best friend”. Once born, this surviving twin bonds with a sibling, a parent, a friend at school, anyone they perceive may have the kind of close relationship they had with their lost twin. They will marry their best friend only to discover that the relationship is suffocating for the other, or if they both have the same wound, suffocating for both. They can also see that there is no link; that initial recognition was just a phase because that other person also had a twin wound. There is always a double bind in a twin dynamic. There is nothing we can do to cure a double bind, but be informed and once aware of the pattern, wait for the miracle, which always appears.
The real betrayal of patterns of disillusionment and disconnection is that they are imposed through outside intervention. If a couple conceives after heavy drinking or drug use, then the “drug effect” is imprinted on the baby and is often recaptured at birth through interventions such as caesarean sections and chemical pain control. It is in this wound that the theme of “false memories” originates. We remember in the cells of the body what may have happened in the past to our ancestors. We have inherited the pattern and it is our job in this life to cure it instead of finding someone to blame for it. Children with this pattern will grow up feeling guilty because they seem to be delusional, due to a lack of clarity in the brain. They feel confused until they can eliminate the toxins in the fourth ventricle of the brain (filled with cerebrospinal fluid) where the impact of the drug remains. They may be addicted to alcohol, drugs, or other chemicals until they figure out where the pattern originated and can begin healing work. Craniosacral work can help release toxicity in the fourth ventricle. Forgiving those who have been blamed is the key to healing this pattern.
Forceps and C-sections (which also have the chemical aspect) have become very common methods of delivering a baby, whether it’s necessary or not. Any rough handling by someone pulling a baby out of the womb by the head in a slightly too rough manner can cause immense damage. The tiny skull is still very fragile and both methods should only be used in a life-threatening emergency. The male doctors decided to make childbirth a medical procedure and initially secretly used forceps and other tools to “assist” the childbirth. The resulting pain for the baby is almost impossible to bear, and the baby disconnects from the body in order to survive. So the baby continues to spend the rest of his life “disconnected” because he can’t be grounded and centered in her body. These are the people who seem to be “on another planet” or “far from the fairies” and drift through life; and have episodes of intense anger. Nothing can work for them if they are not grounded and centered in the body. We are here to be body-oriented people, however, for those who have had a forceps delivery, the body is perceived as a dangerous place to be. You continue to invite abuse simply through your aura. There is also a feeling of wanting to come home, not being afraid of death, possibly even having a sense of “the divine” in that moment of disconnection. These people need a lot of body work and skull realignment to be successful in their lives.
This is just a brief look at what distortions are. A baby is alone in the present moment and believes that what happens at the moment of birth is “forever”, until someone else informs her otherwise when she is able to reason. There are much more detailed healing procedures, but to begin with we need to identify the patterns.
If a parent can talk to the baby, apologize for what happened, and explain the circumstances “you might not have survived if we had done this intervention…” then the emotional trauma surrounding the event can be released.
It’s never too late: You can apologize to your 40-year-old children for what happened at their birth. It could transform their lives.