What causes anger problems?

Anger is often the result of emotional situations that escalate and get out of control. Look how the children behave. They often get angry, throw tantrums, get hysterical when they are distraught about a situation. This distress usually occurs when they feel left out, ignored, or ignored. They often don’t know how to convey their feelings and anger can flare up as their frustration grows.

We can see this situation in the behavior of adults as well. When an adult feels that she has run out of options, he may resort to anger to get others’ attention.
Let’s look at some of the causes of anger problems.

– Learned angry behavior can occur when a child witnesses anger as a routine way of dealing with annoyance or upset, usually at home. When a person witnesses anger as the habitual way of communicating unhappiness and disagreement, especially during their formative years, it can be difficult to unlearn that response and find better, more constructive ways to deal with problems. Some people learn to accept getting angry as a normal way to react, others may fear a tense atmosphere and be afraid to express opinions or disagree, becoming quiet and shy as a way to avoid any disapproval.

– Lack of respect is often a characteristic of an angry situation. When a person feels foolish, ignored, undermined by another, they often don’t know what to do. Sometimes that person may feel that any attention is better than none and is determined to be noticed, even if it means yelling and causing an angry scene.

– Frustrated. A person can come to feel that whatever he does, no matter how hard he tries, it will always be perceived negatively. It can be frustrating to continually try to improve yourself, be motivated enough to want to improve and impress others, only to be continually ignored. They may feel that their efforts are less rewarded, that they never get the same recognition as others, or that good opportunities don’t seem to come their way.

– Poor communication skills, especially in the presence of someone who is perceived as highly educated and articulate, can cause a person to become tongue-tied and not sure what to say. Over time, this person may lose your confidence, her self-esteem may be eroded, and she may feel that she cannot communicate well enough to be heard. Or even worse, they may feel that what they say will be seen as silly, unclear, or poorly expressed.

– Bullying situations can provoke an angry response at times. When a person is harassed for an extended period of time, he often loses the ability to communicate his situation to her. They may feel weak, ashamed, they may feel that it is their fault, that they are somehow to blame. Often, voicing individual examples of bullying can seem trivial or they feel like it’s something they should be able to handle effectively on their own. Eventually, anger can flare up as the pressure builds and they feel determined to try to end the situation.

– Losing can cause anger. Some people are ill-prepared to deal with failure or rejection. You may have always been a winner, you may have been a golden child who always did well. Losing can be an unknown situation in which you have little or no ability to cope. Throwing a tantrum and getting angry may be a reaction to unfamiliarity with the situation and evidence of your lack of resources to deal with it.

Anger is often about feeling vulnerable or unable to control what is happening. It is important to learn to stay calm, identify what is happening and why it affects us so much. We can then determine what needs to be done to improve the situation and find appropriate ways to communicate how we feel. It can take time to achieve this goal, it is an important part of becoming a responsible adult.